Saturday, September 1, 2012

Divorce and Remarriage Book Survey, Part 1 of 3


This is an extension to my series on the biblical perspective of divorce and remarriage. The posts can be found here:

There are quite a few books today on divorce and remarriage and what the bible has to say about it. I didn’t read all of them. Some are obvious they’re not worth reading. No doubt a few Christians are trying to find a decent book or two in search of some answers. My search was generally not for the how-to manuals for marriage/remarriage but rather those that (at least attempted) to contribute something to how one understands what the bible says on the matter.


John Murray’s Divorce (1953, 122 pp.) is the classic starting point for exploring divorce and remarriage in the bible. Published originally by the Orthodox Presbyterian Church, Murray explores “The Old Testament Provision” (Dt. 24:1-4), then “The Teaching of Our Lord” (the gospel passages), and then “The Teaching of Paul” (1 Cor. 7:10-15 and Rom. 7:1-3). He closes with an exploration of “Practical Cases”. His method for understanding Scripture is straight grammatical-textual exegesis with little eye on cultural/historical matters. He finds that in Deuteronomy the Law simply tolerated but did not sanction divorce. Consistent with standard Presbyterian thought of the day, Jesus sought the true intent of the Law over against the misapplication of the Law by contemporary Jewish leaders. He does find the Greek passive construction in Mt. 5:32 to be notable and finds the passive in John 8:4 to be revealing in determining the meaning of the passive in Matthew 5 and, after a survey of most other significant biblical passages, finds that “it is not feasible to exclude from the word moiceuqhnai [moicheuthenai] actual involvement in the sin of adultery”[i]. Murray is quite even-handed with his approach to 1 Cor. 7 but falters at Rom. 7 in not recognizing that “law” refers to the Mosaic Law in all instances. His attempt at the end of applying the text to “practical applications” has striking resemblance to a law code rather than actual practical considerations of various circumstances. Overall, he finds the two standard Reformed exceptions to divorce equaling adultery: sexual immorality and abandonment.

Gordon Wenham and William Heth teamed up in Jesus and Divorce (1984, Updated 1997, Republished a million times) to challenge the standard Reformed position that there are 2 exceptions to divorce equating to adultery, which they dub the “Erasmian” position. The first 2 chapters survey and analyze the Early Church Fathers’ views on the matter. They usefully summarize the Church Fathers who are determined to be a practically united voice that does not allow remarriage after divorce, while making minor oversights like quickly dismissing Clement of Alexandria as going beyond Paul and make no comment about Origen’s reading of 1 Cor. 7:8-9. For Wenham and Heth, the church ignores the apparently unanimous voice of the Fathers at it’s own risk. Though they quickly and repeatedly distance themselves from it, one can’t help but read them as relying more on their reading of the Church Fathers’ stance than on a fair analysis of Scripture, especially given how dismissive they are of the criticism that many Fathers held their stance on remarriage no doubt because celibacy was elevated. Chapters 3 and 4 very usefully survey the early and modern defenses of the so-called Erasmian position. Chapters 5 and 6 critique the Erasmian viewpoints from the OT and NT respectively. Then they spend 4 more chapters very usefully surveying and critiquing more modern approaches to Jesus’ divorce sayings.

In considering the OT, Heth and Wenham argue, per Gen. 1 and 2 and Lev. 18, that marriage creates a bond whereby the spouse really becomes one’s “flesh and blood”, a member of the family. Thus a spouse cannot cease being your marriage partner just as a sister cannot cease being a sister. That relationship simply cannot be severed. They then argue that that is what causes the abomination to the Lord in Dt. 24:1-4 – to remarry the woman is like remarrying a sister! All of this seems a bit strained. Besides the faltering logic in their analysis of Dt. 24, they seem to forget that in the OT a family member could actually be cut off if the circumstances warrant doing so. Moreover, their analysis really makes trouble of the levirate marriage system required by the Law. If the wife becomes a sister, surely the brother would be having sex with his sister after his brother dies! Thankfully, Heth has come to abandon this thinking.

When they consider the NT, Heth and Wenham consider Mark’s and Luke’s accounts of Jesus’ sayings as absolute, requiring a lengthy explanation of Matthew’s exception clauses. The exception clause, they argue, only applies to the divorce side of the equation. Divorce is adultery except with marital unfaithfulness, and remarriage is always adultery. To do this requires 2 rather tenuous claims: 1) the Greek word order for Matthew requires this reading and 2) the Greek word for  “divorce” shifts its sense between the Pharisees’ question and Jesus’ response – divorce for the Pharisees entailed a certificate and certainty of remarriage and for Jesus entailed only a separation of sorts. Too many commentators have responded to point 1 – the Greek word order can hardly be put any other way to make sense. For the 2nd point, their defense is simply unconvincing; more explanation would have been required by Jesus for his hearers to understand a new sense to “divorce”.

The appendix is the biggest reason to get the revised edition for in it the authors lighten up a bit on some of their strong claims. 13 years after the first edition they admit that there may have been a minority among the Church Fathers who took an “Erasmian” position and that perhaps the “abomination” in Deut. 24:4 does not refer to a type of incest. As with the entire book, the appendix is a very good resource for its comprehensive survey of varying positions.



[i] See p. 21, n. 2

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

The Biblical Perspective on Divorce and Remarriage


This is part 8 of 8 in a series on what the bible says concerning divorce and remarriage. For the other posts see here:

We’ve gone down a rather long road of examining the significant biblical passages concerning how a Christian should think about divorce and remarriage. Genesis 1:27 and 2:24 tell us that the fundamental design of humanity is to enact God’s rule and authority through a unified community. The building block of human community is the marital relationship between husband and wife, who are to be completely unified – “one flesh” – in every aspect of life. The relationship is hardly mystical but rather to be nurtured, developed, and protected. Exodus 21:10-11 and Deuteronomy 24:1-4 are provisions within the Law of Moses concerning divorce that are regulatory for marital relationships and assume the possibility of relational breakdown. Thus the Law is good (Rom. 7:12) but doesn’t redeem humanity. In the gospels we find that Jesus comes to demand a righteousness higher than the Law, to which the Law pointed (Matthew 5). In stark contrast to the Jewish leaders who operated from the framework of what the Law permitted, Jesus demanded perfection, harkening back to the perfect creation order of the beginning. At the same time, demand is not case law and Jesus did not address the “what-ifs” of everyday life in this broken world. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul applies Jesus’ demands to a church whose clamoring for personal status within the church affected their marital relationships and draws inferences to address specific concerns. In Romans Paul uses general principles of marriage to demonstrate God’s immeasurable grace in Christ Jesus and in 1 Timothy and Titus he insists upon a measure of faithfulness among leaders in the church.

What we have found is that in the post death-and-resurrection-of-Jesus era in which Christians live, we live by a standard to which the Law provides a guide (Rom. 15:4) but is not the final arbiter in every circumstance. Rather, the Holy Spirit is our ultimate guide, showing us how to act within the fallen structures of this world while living out Jesus’ extreme demands. We are to strive to gain knowledge and wisdom to seek and discern God’s will in every situation (Rom. 12:2, Phil. 1: 9-11, Col. 1:9-11).

So, in the practical world, is it acceptable to divorce your spouse if he/she has cheated on you? Perhaps. Just because it’s “allowed” in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 doesn’t mean it’s an acceptable solution in every instance. We often read it as if it’s merely our choice rather than being required. That’s precisely the type of thinking Jesus condemns. What if it’s an only instance and the spouse genuinely repents and seeks forgiveness and restoration? There may be a circumstance where automatic divorce is not the right thing to do even if “allowed” by Scripture. Despite the pain, suffering, and distrust caused, there may exist a future complete reconciliation that would make the marriage that much stronger and healthier, creating a higher good than what could have been thought possible - God can do that. That may only be the very rare occasion though. An ounce of discernment given a certain set of circumstances may determine that divorce is simply the best alternative. In all cases, prayer is necessary.

What about abandonment? In most cases the obvious thing to do is to formally divorce, especially to avoid legal repercussions that are exigent today that weren’t in Jesus’ day. But maybe not, given a certain set of circumstances. In all cases, prayer is necessary.

What about neglect or abuse? What about physical abuse versus mental or emotional abuse? I think a guiding principle in all considerations of divorce is to what degree the marital relationship or covenant has been severed by a spouse’s action. Where there should exist some degree of love, instead becomes an outlet of hatred and anger[i]. Often destructive tendencies need to be halted by divorce, which indeed may be the loving thing to do to prevent a spouse’s abusive tendencies from destroying him or herself or the spouse being abused. Sometimes it’s best to consider how abusive behavior affects or distorts the children’s understanding of what is acceptable behavior and what sort of repercussions may be had in each child’s life by having abusive role models. There may be many other considerations. As always, prayer is necessary.

And remarriage after divorce? My exploration of all the relevant biblical passages shows that there is little warrant, generally speaking, for restrictions on remarriage after a justified divorce has taken place (in fact 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 & 15 positively indicate otherwise). This is not withstanding practical cautionary considerations and the realization that God enables anyone whom he wills to be single. Again, sensitivity and discernment (and prayer) are required for the individual circumstances. But sadly many today feel that while divorce may be acceptable at times, remarriage crosses an unforgivable line. This oftentimes results in unnecessary hurt and negligence of those who have been unfairly wronged by divorce in their past or rightly escaped abuse by divorce and are seeking, or simply find themselves in a new relationship – one in which they can be loved and edified, enabling them to function as God intended for them.

In all of these posts, my intent has been to speak to those who have suffered or are suffering in severely broken relationships – something common enough these days.  Just as common today[ii], if not more common, are those who are seeking for a reason for divorce. It’s as if they just find everything wrong with the person they are married to and feel they need something better. Maybe they just “drifted apart” or are “no longer in love”. Though it should have come through pretty clearly in some of the posts, it’s worth the emphasis that such orientation is detrimental to oneself and everyone around that person and, most importantly, goes against the grain of Jesus’ radical demands. Marriage is something that requires constant personal investment and a valuing by both partners of the other above the self. Sadly, in today’s culture we are taught more and more to value the self, resulting in very destructive tendencies and creating an almost impossibility for healthy marriage.  It’s been quickly forgotten that healthy, if not at least decent, marital relationships are the fabric of society, without which it falls apart, both individually and as a whole. While marriage is almost certainly difficult, with time and effort it’s rewards can be immeasurable. To destroy it is to invite a measure of chaos, pain, and suffering. God give us grace and mercy to take marriage as seriously as he does.



[i] An excellent analysis of mental and emotional abuse can be found here: http://eaandfaith.blogspot.com/2005/02/silent-killer-of-christian-marriages.html.
[ii] As mentioned in the first post, I speak only for American churches and culture.
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