tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336276188651151018.post1888296426617030576..comments2020-05-28T23:24:03.665-04:00Comments on Theological Pursuit: Divorce and Remarriage, Part 1: IntroCarlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09808516066452641188noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336276188651151018.post-21630716514863546422012-08-22T20:26:54.658-04:002012-08-22T20:26:54.658-04:00It is a good point that in this (American) culture...It is a good point that in this (American) culture and certain others that abuse, both physical and mental/emotional, is notably rampant and practically makes higher divorce rates almost necessary. I know of other cultures where their approach to marriage is much better, placing much higher value on commitment and honor, and abuse is indeed less. But I definitely agree that there are other cultures where lack of divorce is more because of fear of bad repercussions so the women take the abuse.<br /><br />I've personally seen many different divorce types, including abuse, abandonment, and "drifting apart". It's certainly rather common in many parts of American culture (not sure where you're writing from) for people to divorce for very trivial reasons and excuses abound. I think it's just part of being so self-centered.<br /><br />Thank you for mentioning the point always worth bringing up in discussion about divorce: the sin of abuse can often be so serious that the marriage is effectively no longer a marriage and divorce is the right thing to do. I posted my last post just now, which explores this a little bit. Also, see the excellent blog article on emotional abuse that I linked in note 1.<br /><br />My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family members who are struggling with oppression in marriage.Carlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808516066452641188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336276188651151018.post-63302977417040764122012-08-20T06:56:25.209-04:002012-08-20T06:56:25.209-04:00Given that 75% of abusive marriages will break up,...Given that 75% of abusive marriages will break up, and that 25% to 33% of women(Christian or otherwise)have experience abuse in a marriage relationship, we shouldn't be surprised that the divorce rate is as high as it is. <br /><br />Christian leaders used to quote marriages in other cultures as being superior for their lower divorce rates, but we know that in many of those cultures, domestic abuse is rife and women are not able to leave without exposing themselves to a lot of danger. <br /><br />In my mother's family, every one of her siblings are in violent marriages. They don't believe in breaking up their families, so they are all still together. The dysfunctional patterns, unbroken, are passed down to their children and my female cousins are married to abusive, disrespectful men and my male cousins who are married are mostly violent. A couple are not married and don't seem to be able to relate in healthy ways.<br /><br />I was always taught that divorce was caused by sin. If by this, one means the sin of one person being perpetrated on another, then getting away from that sin is not a bad thing. How in the world am I supposed to obey Ps 101:3-5 ("I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar. I hate all who deal crookedly; I will have nothing to do with them. I will reject perverse ideas and stay away from every evil. I will not tolerate people who slander their neighbors, I will not endure conceit and pride") without divorcing a perpetrator of abuse?<br /><br />Granted, some may divorce for trivial reasons, but I certainly have not come across any. Every person whom I know divorced too late because they didn't believe in it, and unfortunately has to pick up the far-reaching damage of exposing their children to a disordered parent.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336276188651151018.post-82514449812574181852012-08-09T20:41:10.308-04:002012-08-09T20:41:10.308-04:00I definitely wouldn't want to deny those point...I definitely wouldn't want to deny those points. Are you saying that the way things are are the way things should be?Carlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808516066452641188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336276188651151018.post-29245437709376164732012-08-09T10:02:29.897-04:002012-08-09T10:02:29.897-04:00There are as many types of divorces as there are t...There are as many types of divorces as there are types of families, and each family creates their own little theater in which the divorce is acted out. For some families, divorce emanates from the adults not being able to get along, solve problems or communicate effectively. In other families, the divorce is the recognition that things are not working for the good of everyone involved.Dating again after divorcehttp://datingagainafterdivorce.bravesites.com/noreply@blogger.com